By Chuks Ekweariri
Preface
Our world is the world of duality and opposites, and the problem of sex is caused by the problem of duality – man and woman precisely. The world of opposite, good and bad, white and black, this which pre-supposedly God created to balance the ecosystem, to balance the world he has created. But certainly, either something is wrong somewhere with man or God may not have done it correctly, which is impossible for God is good all the time.
But in the world, there is a problem of sexuality but certainly there is spirituality in human sexuality when we look at it very well and man ought to know this. As an adolescent, I was confronted like all others with incessant sexual arousal which signified a very healthy young adult with full and firebrand sexual energy. It would have been quite entertaining to exercise this energy, for it is obvious that no excitement from any aspect of human activity is comparable to the pleasure derivable from sexual exercise.
As adolescents in every era, the aura and occasion of sex and its discussion was enjoyable, although with much pretense. And any form of prevention from engaging in sexual discussion or activity was usually frowned upon. There comes the teaching of Christianity on ‘no sex before marriage’. For the fear of not going to hell fire and for the joy of going to heaven, I do not question and no one dare question the authority of the Christian morality on sex.
Therefore, the moral principle of no sex before marriage was well taken as to make this heaven. But there was still a very big hormonal problem that triggers sexual motivations. I have accepted to avoid sex before marriage so as to merit heaven, but God had refused to silence the noise of biology at war in me. Sexual motivation triggered by testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, oxytocin and vasopressin hormones all joined to try to mess up my going to heaven.
This was quite annoying that God has not end the sexual noise he created in me even after I have accepted to obey, so as not to miss heaven. However, I was sure of something, that God does not fail, and whatever he does is good. If he does not want to silence the sexual noise in me even after I have given it up for the sake of his Kingdom, he must have a better plan for it.
On enquiry, I also discovered that every healthy human being shares the same sexual predicament like me. That even after you have decided and controlled yourself from every form of sexual activity, you will still be embarrassed with sexual feelings coming from within and outside you. I decided to approach God for an answer since he is the creator and the director of human sexual feelings as to educate me better as to share his motive behind human sexual feelings.
This mandate therefore is a communication between God and I on human sexual feelings. It is the answer to the question – why human sexual feelings? To be continued…